. How to Express Your Emotional Pain the Healthy Way
We often feel sadness over occurrences in our lives that we have no
control over. Perhaps a best friend moves away, or maybe we experience
the loss of a family member. Not all of us know how to express our
feelings. Some cannot talk it over with parents, and some just think
that hurting themselves is the only way to express their inner feelings.
There are other ways for us to express our grief. The steps as written
below are good guidelines to follow.Try them and let's know what you think about it, did it work or not?
Steps
- First of all, know that crying is not a sign of weakness.
Let out your tears! Bottled up emotions lead to more emotional
breakdowns in the future. Crying not only cleanses the eyes, but washes
the pain away. (Note: This is a metaphor. Crying does not literally wash
away pain.)
2. Keep a diary. Each time you're feeling down in the dumps, write a journal entry about it. When you're feeling better you can look back at the entry and think, "How did this pain make me stronger?".
3. Find someone to talk to. Find someone you trust. If you feel comfortable talking to them and if they can listen to you, understand your pain, then they are the right person for you to turn to.
4. Try to get to the source of the sadness. Is it due to a person in particular? If so, avoid that person. If one person is the source for your depression, then it's not worth talking to him or her.- 5. Work through the reasons that provoke your crying. If you are jealous of someone, try to figure out if this reaction is really worth feeling sad about.
- 6. Allow time to grieve. If sadness is due to the death of someone close to you, then it may take a bit longer for the sadness to pass. It is healthy to feel sad at the loss of a loved one so understand this and take one day at a time. Crying is perfectly normal at a time like this. Talking about it and expressing your feelings will also help.
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- 7. Use art to free some of your pain. It can be a poem, a song, short story, or a painting that describes what you're feeling and going through.
- 8. Muster the courage to feel what actually exists inside you; the courage of an open heart.
- 9. If your sadness is related to a family member passing away, do not forget them, but keep memories of them [pictures, home videos, favorite songs, etc.].
- 10. Is it because of love? somebody you feel is attractive but you don't have enough courage to tell them that? Write Letters, e-mails, Texts and save them in drafts and read them everyday.
Tips
- Crying sometimes helps. You sometimes feel better after a good cry. Just keep your chin up!
- Talk to a friend who is always willing to help. Find a "zen" or relaxing place with them and then let out your emotions. Try not to be hesitant, especially if you know talking with them will help.
- Don't kill yourself, even if you feel like you want too, it's not worth it.
- You should write an entry into your journal daily, even if the sadness is less. This way you can get a handle on your feelings and thoughts before you get very sad again.
- If you feel that the only way you can get relief from your pain is by hurting yourself, try following the above suggestions. Try talking to a parent or best friend and maybe then you'll feel relieved.
- If you are emotionally stressed about a person's actions or expectations, try talking to them. You may find it helps to tell them what you're going through.
- Source: Wikihow.com
